Is this normal? LOL

That title can start so many thing, but I have to seriously wonder..."Is this normal, or did I spoil this child into being a demanding dare I say 'brat' after only one year?"

I know brat is way harsh, and he's not a brat, but he has ZERO patience. I have no idea if it's genetic or learned or what, but...

Say I'm washing 2 dishes and waiting for his noodles to cool....he SCREAMS not cries....YELLS the whole time. Just hungry, right?

Well then, after eating he bangs his head against the back of the high chair when he's done. Baby signs, you say?

Slapping me in the face when he doesn't want me to kiss him or doesn't like my answer of 'not for your fingers...'

Is all of this just typical boy? Should I be taking steps to curb some of this? Is it actual bad behavior, or is it just a toddler that is frustrated and has no words yet? I have no idea when to start taking action, ya know? And I'm not a spanker UNLESS there is imminent danger, then I would definitely swat a hand from a hot stove or something... But I have no idea what I'm doing here. I've felt stupid, ignorant, and un-informed before, but until he turns like 3 I'm afraid I have absolutely no idea what is RIGHT, expected, JUST, normal, or 'BAD'.

Anyone???

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  1. Well, I can't say it's typical boy behavior, because my son was an amazingly awesome and easy and sweet baby.

    I can tell you you're not alone. Meadow is 13 months old and she has more attitude at this age than any child has the right to have. What you described is EXACTLY my baby. She's sweet and funny and adorable, too, but she is also quite the little monster.

    I usually blame it on her sister, who is a ridiculous drama queen that makes me scratch my head in confusion over where she came from every single day. I blame that one on her father. Or on my mother, for cursing me with kids who are just like me. Then again, I was never like that. Nobody was ever like that. We joke around that we're going to call for an exorcism. Maybe I can get a two-for-one deal.

    Chin up. This time goes by so fast, you'll laugh about how insane you were driven by your adorable monster of a toddler. Then when he's talking back to you and demanding that you upgrade his Xbox Live membership, you can think back to the cute little temper tantrums he used to throw when you didn't get him his Cheerios fast enough.

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    1. My hubs says that too! "All this is such a short phase..." And, it's gotten better. It's just such a mom thing to worry about 'normal' development I think! Glad I'm in good company though! :)

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  2. I would say that alot of it is a toddler acting out from not having the words to use. I am the same as you we don't use spankings unless there is a risk of her (my daughter) being hurt OR hurting someone else so the smacking in the face is something that would warrant some extra discipline to get it to stop. I know some people say not to do such a thing but I also know that those same people have kids who hit/kick/bite and my daughter has never done it again since she got a little swat for hitting another child.

    She pushes her limits in very many ways but by showing her that was absolutely unacceptable she hasn't done it again, and the biggest thing is to explain why they are getting a hand or bottom swat. "You got your bottom spanked because you hit your sister and we don't hit because it's not nice and will hurt your sister." I know I've even been guilty of occasionally not fully explaining why she is in trouble but I think it's easy to forget that even though they can't say as much, they do understand a whole lot more than we think they do. And as was stated before me it will end up passing and you'll look back and laugh but for now just find the best way to strike a balance you are comfortable with. There's no one way to do things and people are going to disagree with your parenting at some point or another (that's sadly the way it goes) but do what you feel is needed and what will help keep you the most sane lol.

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    1. We have kind of always tried to do "what works for us" and it seems to be the best path. I do have to get better at explanation for everything---a simple "No." is rarely sufficient! I haven't spanked yet.......

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  3. I will say after working in a daycare, sounds like its typical, some kids just have that attitude, nothing to do with the mom or dad, it's just them my sister and I were very different but raised identical.

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  4. It is very normal for a one year old to scream and react that way. It is actually developmental. My son did it and now my daughter is in that stage. It is frustrating for sure, but it does pass.

    There is of course always room for discipline (versus punishment) by redirecting. But, it isn't anything you are or are not doing. Hang in there! :)

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  5. My son does the same thing! He's 19 months. He yells for no reason, bangs his head against things when he is tired or frustrated and smacks me in the face often! One minute he comes in to kiss me and the next he slaps me across the face or tries to grab my glasses off of my face. Ugg, so frustrating. You are not alone.

    But then he is super sweet and cuddly. You never know what to expect.

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  6. Great, is this what I have to look forward to? Oh know! My son is only 8 months now...he does yell sometimes, but it is not really that bad!

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  7. I think your son is testing his boundaries. My daughter went through a stage similar to that.. where she screamed for her food.. of course no slapping.. but I learned.. and waited to put her in her chair.. until the food was ready.. I hope it gets better. God bless you. Judith

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